Autonomy is one of the big points that improves leadership and allows a person to take good decisions.
One of the big instruments that gives power to autonomy is the awareness of our needs.
Why is this important? Because when you know your needs, then you know what is determining some of your behaviors. And just by knowing this, you improve your autonomy.
Every person has needs and not recognizing this means you just ignore a true fact: you, like anyone else have needs.
What to do about needs:
Acknowledge your needs and understand them well. You should know very well your needs, cause there is no one on this world that should know them better, than yourself.
Be aware that you are the only one who can fulfill your needs. And thus you need to communicate them clear to everyone who can help you fulfill them. And you are the one who decide who can and who cannot help with with this.
Find creative ways to fulfill your needs. What I want to say with this?
This means that if what you are currently doing is not working, try to do something new.
This means that is relationship is not fulfilling your needs, maybe you should consider changing your perspective about this relation or find another person who can understand you.
This means if the responses you get are not the way you want, maybe you should ask different questions or communicate in other way or with other people.
Do not change your needs
This is a very delicate subject and pay attention not to enter in the trap of “changing” needs that support your development only because it is more confortable for you to change them instead of fulfill them.
A need is not a desire. So you cannot change a need
What you can do with a need, is to move focus or decide it is not important for your current situation.
And also you can actively be aware that some needs are not yours, but are others needs. And thus you can eliminate them.
So in the end, being aware of your needs is an act of power and autonomy as you don’t let yourself drive by them, but you drive your needs to fulfillment.
You are the driver of your needs. You own your needs so act accordingly.
