I’ve remembered recently what a very good person told me about the four rules of relations between human beings.
And today as I’ve experienced one of them I want to share them here and thus be sure whenever I want I can recall them:
1. Give
Give means simple giving.
Like I’ve explained in one of my previous posts: Dare to give, to simple give to others, without expectations, without regrets. Just give fully.
So the most important thing to remember here is: give without expecting anything in return.
Without creating expectations and without trying to make the other one someone obliged to me.
2. Ask
Most of the people cannot read minds 
So I should not expect them to know what I want, I desire or I need.
The most simple way to communicate what I’m thinking is to tell and thus the most simple way to ask is to ask.
Asking for help or asking for something, should be done correctly by letting to the other the choice to choose. So I should be aware that the probability to receive a Yes it is egual with the probability to receive a No. So it is 50/50
This way when I’m asking for something, I should not raise my expectation higher than the reality.
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3. Receive
First when I accept something, I should be fully aware of the consequences of my acceptance.
Also, I should not feel obliged by my acceptance and try not to limit any possibilities.
Receiving should be as simple as giving. I receive something and this is everything that is about it
On the other hand, when someone if accepting something from myself, I will not consider this a contract between us.
4. Refuse
I’m the owner of my choice.
So when someone is giving me something I have the option to deny it. It is my choice, so he/she shouldn’t be offended by my refusal.
I can refuse something because it is too much for me and I by accepting it I will probably feel obliged somehow to that person.
In many cultures giving a too big (or too small) gift it was considered an insulte and this was the reason: not to make anyone feel obliged by a gift.
Also I will not take any refuse personally. It is just the choice of the other person and I will respect that choice.
Just that simple
). But when you give and when you recive?
When you give and you receive means you’re alive and participate to the relationship in both ways
Cred ca Simona vroia sa intrebe: When is the time to give? When is the time to receive?
…maybe.
If this was the question, then I think the time to give is when I first gave to myself so that I can gave to others
And it is time to receive when I can do it without feeling oblige.
And in order to get there, there is one single secret: practice, try, experiment, learn
Give, ask ,recieve, refuse …it’s just about beeing u and enjoying every moment as it comes without regrets.
I’m doing that and i’m me
So, let’s be …all of us:)
Very nice this post
It’s very simply…just like that…but in practice it’s very difficult. I you are caught in the middle what can you do????
It’s a good article, but this is the theory. Where is the practice????
Hey Sabina
I’m glad you are reading my articles and you have questions about what is here.
If you are caught in the middle, then first step is to acknowledge where you are and take a stand to do something about it.
Yes this is theory but the practice of this theory and what you can get from it, is all depending on you.
I’ve shared what I’ve learned, my experience and there is no good way to put it in practice then just to do it.
Do, get some results and then see what is working for you. You can start with small steps and practice the rules with someone very close with you, or you can start with a big step and practice these rules with everyone.
Give it a try and let me know how worked for you.
Share with us your learnings from this.