I hear very often around me, that people are waiting for something to happen or – worse – for someone to come and solve their problems.
I was myself in the same spot in the past so I decided to share with you my own experience on this.
Who/What are we waiting?
Let’s see what are the common things or persons we are waiting.
So we are waiting for:
1. The others to come to discuss with us our own needs
2. A friend to discuss with us our feelings
3. A partner to suggest us a better deal or a better project
4. A lover to come and express the love
5. Family to express the caring
6. An unknown person to come and say “Hello” to you
7. The future, where becoming better we can solve our problems
8. Next week to start ….
9. Next month to start …
10. Next year to make that change …
11. A new opportunity to say …
12. A special occasion to celebrate the life
And here you can put your own items on this list. I’m sure it can grow as big as you want.
What is happening?
It is just running away from the current moment, to live in an uncertain future.
And most of the times we are putting our hopes in someone else to make a move and improve our OWN life.
It is running from responsibility of our own actions, for what we can create and how we can live the life.
No hero will come. No future version of us will come to the present and rescue.
If you want to have a better future, start doing thing now, in the present.
Don’t put the control to the others anymore. Don’t want for NEXT to come.
Do you think that the other will come to change your life or to improve it?
How can you evolve in the future, if you don’t do anything in the present? The future is generated by every present moment you life. You don’t do anything in any present moment, then there will be no better future.
When you wait for someone else to make a move, when do you think he will do that move? When it is best for you or when it is best for him/her?
Remember each person takes the best decision he/she can do in a particular moment. And each person is running toward happiness or running away from pain.
Use questions to take actions
Put yourself these questions:
How long do I have to delay living my own life, until I realize I’m in the driver seat?
How long do I need to wait for someone else, until I figure out that I’m the creator of my own life?
How come, I have all these knowledge about my life and myself and I’m still thinking that other can know me better and help me decide what is best for myself?
How come, I know my needs and my desires and I’m still waiting for others to fulfill them? (Read more about being aware of your own needs)
How many stories do I need to tell myself, before I will acknowledge they are not true and start viewing my real life? (Read more about the stories we tell)
