Development

Living on the short scale

Written by Lucian on Jun 14, 2010 in Development, People | 11 comments

Where we are now

Often I can notice thinking on a short scale. And I’m not referring here at living the moment – which is a wonderful thing. I’m talking about limits and assumptions and judgments derived by living on the short scale theory, which I describe like this:

Maybe I’m the only one who thinks this way so there is no point to do it, cause it will not have any impact to myself or to the environment around me

I don’t know exactly from where it comes.

We are 6 billions of people on this planet.

Like Lao-Tzu said:

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

What happens if a percent might be thinking like this? What if 1.000.000 people

Is it?

Written by Lucian on Mar 16, 2010 in Development, Life | 3 comments

Auto-pilot

Many times we are on auto-pilot. Automatically responding to what happens in our lives, to what triggers our social and personal auto-mechanisms.

We’re believing most of what we hear.

Trusting well known “truths” just because our someone from our life believed in them and told us in some point in time (most of them during childhood) that “This thing should be this way!”

The question(s)

Just remember that many of the important achievements, steps forward, innovations and creations came because someone, sometime put this

How can 6 people really understand each other

Written by Lucian on Feb 11, 2010 in Communication, Development | 2 comments

Perception creates images

So, we are communicating every moment. And like someone said (don’t remember who right now):” You cannot not communicate”.

Let’s analyze a little how our minds work when we are communicating.

There is a real version of myself that is determined by all decisions I’ve made in the past, all the hopes I have for the future and all the moments I live in the now. And in all this mix, here comes the perception. The perception is the capacity of our mind to transform the reality based on our own world map.

So, how perception works in a communication?

It works well cause along with assumptions and expectations it creates two new versions of myself when I’m participating in a communication:

1. The “I” as I want to see myself

2. The “I” as others

Awareness of needs – a path to autonomy

Written by Lucian on Jan 19, 2010 in Development, Leadership | 0 comments

Autonomy is one of the big points that improves leadership and allows a person to take good decisions.

One of the big instruments that gives power to autonomy is the awareness of our needs.

Why is this important? Because when you know your needs, then you know what is determining some of your behaviors. And just by knowing this, you improve your autonomy.

Every person has needs and not recognizing this means you just ignore a true fact: you, like anyone else have needs.

What to do about needs:

Acknowledge your needs and understand them well. You should know very well your needs, cause there is no one on this world that should know them better, than yourself.

Be aware that you are the only one who can

Before having is being

Written by Lucian on Dec 16, 2009 in Development, Life | 3 comments

So there is a misconception saying that “We need to have something before being or acting”.

And I will explain about this with some short examples:
- We want to have respect of the others, before respecting them (before being respectful to them)
- We want to have understanding of others, before we try to understand them
- We want to have attention of others, before we pay attention to them
- We want to have forgiveness of others, before we forgive them
- We want to have caring of others, before we care about them
- We want to have love of others, before loving them

And here the list is as long as we want to make it.

What is the trick here?

Some people consider

Stories we tell

Written by Lucian on Nov 26, 2009 in Development, Life | 0 comments

In our lives, it happens to tell ourselves stories from time to time.

What I mean by stories, I mean we create an entire story about reasons and excuses and blames that are stopping us to take an action, to do something, to create something.

But I’ve started in the last period to be aware of the items that stops me to achieve results or create success or empower other people.

And I’ve told myself: Stop listen to your stories! They are only based on things from the past or based on what I think it will happen in the future. So nothing real, nothing tangible. These stories are not real.

How I will do this? It is very simple:

When you realize that you can do anything then you know that every story you tell to yourself it is a bullshit

So I’m asking myself: Is the story I’m telling myself a real one? How could this