Leadership

The sources of success

Written by Lucian on Dec 20, 2011 in Leadership, Life | 0 comments

The observation

What I notices in the follow-up session or reviews is people talking about successes they have or have not while pursuing their objectives or purposes.

In these sharing, I hear very often that success means getting a desired result and failure means not getting a desired result.

So, if someone got a desired result, then it presents this as being a success. If he/she got a result, but not the desired one, or no result, then automatically he/she labels this as being unsuccessful.

The interpretation

I thinking believing desired result as the single source of success is a limiting thinking.

Because, in this case, every other type of outcome that come from your actions is automatically considered failure or something similar.

Awareness of needs – a path to autonomy

Written by Lucian on Jan 19, 2010 in Development, Leadership | 0 comments

Autonomy is one of the big points that improves leadership and allows a person to take good decisions.

One of the big instruments that gives power to autonomy is the awareness of our needs.

Why is this important? Because when you know your needs, then you know what is determining some of your behaviors. And just by knowing this, you improve your autonomy.

Every person has needs and not recognizing this means you just ignore a true fact: you, like anyone else have needs.

What to do about needs:

Acknowledge your needs and understand them well. You should know very well your needs, cause there is no one on this world that should know them better, than yourself.

Be aware that you are the only one who can

Really listening to others

Written by Lucian on Sep 18, 2009 in Leadership, People | 0 comments

This is the most important aspect of any human interaction: The ability to listen what other is saying!

Probably you, like me, got into a discussion with an already well anchored idea. I believed that what I know and what I think it is the right thing to say or to do.

And I’ve started to interrupt the other person and started to make judgments, cause I really knew well the situation.

But, I’ve found out that my assumptions and my believes can be very far away than what the other person is trying to communicate to me. And by doing so, I just end the communication cause I make other to get defensive or offensive. And when a part of communication is in this state, there is no communication.

Also I’ve found that if I really listen to others, I can be more creative about solving a problem or dealing with a situation.

Cause if I really listen, then the communication always bring more details, information that can help me take a decision or act.
And most important of all, I can transmit to the other that what he/she is saying it is important for me.

It helps if I try to see what others are thinking and try to imagine myself in their place. This help me understand them and listen to them more carrefully.

One gold rule I’ve learned about conversations is this: If someone opens to you and try to communicate something that bothers him/her, do NOT interrupt it ever. Don’t make judgments or assumptions during the openness part of the conversation. Just stay there and listen or encourage him to continue.

Who’s around?

Written by Lucian on Aug 27, 2009 in Development, Leadership | 2 comments

Here is a great question  from a book (Ken Blanchard – Whale Done) I’ve read:

Did you ever noticed when you’re life is not working, who’s always around?

Now it makes more sense to me.

You can try to go into the blame state and become very creative with it. As I’ve learned from a Synergy Training the blame state can go all around from little things to life and God.

Productivity, Excellence and The Four Arguments

Written by Lucian on Jun 19, 2009 in Development, Leadership, People | 0 comments

Here is how the Four Arguments become the first four steps on your the road to productivity and excellence.

Let’s take the four arguments, one by one:
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
This means to always be in accordance with what you are saying, with your highest belives. Whenever you or your team are engaging or committing to a project, then you should remain focus on it and keep your promises. Also don’t be afraid to say No to projects. This is also a part of being impeccable with your word. Saying No means that you know what you can do in a particular moment of your life and know what it is to improve.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally.
This is part of the feedback. You should accept feedback from your bosses, from your team and from your clients. Don’t be afraid of negative feedback and don’t take it personally. This will allow you to introspect yourself and find ways to improve. A beautiful quote is saying: “Feedback, the breakfast of champions” (Ken Blanchard)

3.Don’t Make Assumptions.
If you don’t understand a task, a project, a direction, ask for clarifications. Also don’t assume what your employees want or what motivate them. It is important not to assume how anyone think, but to open communication and listen carefully.

4. Always Do Your Best