And sometimes I really want to get a new perspective on things.

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I’ve found these days a beautiful solution to change the state and become more productive or get a new perspective and it is very simple:

Working on a different desk.

Or in another words: just changing the current location.
It is simple, easy to do and very productive  in a qualitative and quantitative way. You only need a laptop.

Here are some ideas you can try inside an office:
- in the conference room
- in a meeting room (you can even try different chairs)
- in the hallway
- on a moving chair in the open space, outside the desk
- in the kitchen
- in any other departement desks then yours
- outside in front of the office
- sitting down on the floor

And you can add to this list any place inside or outside the office.

What about working here:

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LE: Found this article on Seth’ blog: http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2010/06/goodbye-to-the-office.html

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One of the big instruments that gives power to autonomy is the awareness of our needs.

Why is this important? Because when you know your needs, then you know what is determining some of your behaviors. And just by knowing this, you improve your autonomy.

Every person has needs and not recognizing this means you just ignore a true fact: you, like anyone else have needs.

What to do about needs:

Acknowledge your needs and understand them well. You should know very well your needs, cause there is no one on this world that should know them better, than yourself.

Be aware that you are the only one who can fulfill your needs. And thus you need to communicate them clear to everyone who can help you fulfill them. And you are the one who decide who can and who cannot help with with this.

Find creative ways to fulfill your needs. What I want to say with this?
This means that if what you are currently doing is not working, try to do something new.
This means that is relationship is not fulfilling your needs, maybe you should consider changing your perspective about this relation or find another person who can understand you.
This means if the responses you get are not the way you want, maybe you should ask different questions or communicate in other way or with other people.

Do not change your needs

This is a very delicate subject and pay attention not to enter in the trap of “changing” needs that support your development only because it is more confortable for you to change them instead of fulfill them.

A need is not a desire. So you cannot change a need

What you can do with a need, is to move focus or decide it is not important for your current situation.

And also you can actively be aware that some needs are not yours, but are others needs. And thus you can eliminate them.

So in the end, being aware of your needs is an act of power and autonomy as you don’t let yourself drive by them, but you drive your needs to fulfillment.

You are the driver of your needs. You own your needs so act accordingly.

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And I will explain about this with some short examples:
- We want to have respect of the others, before respecting them (before being respectful to them)
- We want to have understanding of others, before we try to understand them
- We want to have attention of others, before we pay attention to them
- We want to have forgiveness of others, before we forgive them
- We want to have caring of others, before we care about them
- We want to have love of others, before loving them

And here the list is as long as we want to make it.

What is the trick here?

Some people consider this type of attitude as being independent, centered on I, but this is the trick.
Even if this attitude appears like putting myself in the center, what happens is that I’m paying to much attention on the behavior of others and less attention on my own feelings, behaviors, desired.

So I’m conditioning my actions on other people actions. And this can be express simple: If I want others to do something, before I do, then I’m reactive, not proactive.

The change here it is simple:  First BE and then WANT from others.
To rewrite the examples from above:
And I will explain about this with some short examples:
- Be respectful, before asking for respect of others
- Be a good listener, before demanding others to listen to you
- Be open and watchful and vigilant, before asking others to pay attention to you
- Be a forgiver, before asking others to forgive you
- Be careful, before you want others to care about you
- Be in love, before others will love you

In other words: Be inside to have outside

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